Do you see me? Do you really “see” me?
Many people look but don’t see, glance with a blind eye, or cast looks that miss the mark. Human beings need to be “seen,” and this seeing takes many forms. This holiday season I’m particularly passionate about what it means to see someone for who they are as a person.
Research on personality differences and motivational needs has shown that about 30% of the North American population primarily desires to be recognized for who they are as a person – to know that “you like me for me.” Called Harmonizers, these people are compassionate, sensitive, and warm. They go to great lengths to create harmony and ensure people feel cared for an nurtured.
The holidays can be wonderful time for these people if they have opportunities to be with loved ones. It can be miserable if there’s strife and conflict in families or at work. So how can each of us show the Harmonizers in our life that we truly see them?