Self-Aware leaders are able to bring their best selves to work while also bringing out the best in others. Self-conscious leaders are more absorbed with themselves and less effective as leaders.
Life has challenges. Conflict happens. Stress is a given.
When life happens, often we have emotional reactions in our body faster than our brains can make up stories to understand what’s happening. Mix those emotions with our past history and our personality tendencies and the stories we make up can get pretty crazy. We’ve all heard it said that the key to happiness and satisfaction isn’t what happens to you, but how you respond.
That’s much easier said than done because some emotions are easier to deal with than others. Here are three highly seductive emotions that can lead us down a dangerous path of drama and self-justification. The stakes are high for what we do next in these situations.
Everybody has borders they want to protect. Nothing wrong with that. We all build walls to protect those borders. That’s normal.
The problem is, most of us claim borders and build walls that are a cover up for the real issues. These smoke screens serve the purpose of helping us feel justified, but aren’t effective in the long run because of the sacrifices they require.
In Part 1 I outlined three of the six smokescreens we use to justify building a wall. Here are the other three.
Despite the domination of mega-retailers like Amazon and Walmart, Costco wholesale club is thriving. They’ve posted seven percent growth the past year, e-commerce is growing, and worker satisfaction is off the charts.
How do they do it? A smart, emotionally intelligent approach, says Justin Bariso, who studied Costco’s success and wrote about it in this article.
From pay raises, to flexible work hours, to paid parental leave, a people-centered culture is priority number one.
Giving customers what they want is Costco’s obsession. Whether it’s the carefully chosen but limited selection of just the most desired items, or their liberal return policy, keeping customers happy is what matters.
This isn’t rocket science. Yet it’s refreshing to see examples of successful large companies doing the right thing.
What is your secret to business success? Can you narrow it down to one or two things? I’d love to hear your answer.
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Have you ever felt hurt by someone you love or respect? I have
Have you ever felt disrespected by a child or spouse? I have
Have you felt imposed-upon by a boss who asked you to stay late one too many times? I have
I’m ready to give up these feelings.
This article was originally published in SmartBrief on September 6, 2018. Republished here with permission.
People are more involved and connected than ever before. There’s always something going on, and somebody’s posting about it. Are you in, or are you out?
With all this awareness, fear of missing out (FOMO) is rampant. It’s easy to get seduced into thinking that just because we can be involved or included, we should be. Or, that if we aren’t, something bad might happen. The pressure is unbelievable.
Getting the right people on the bus might be overrated. According to new research from Google, the HOW is much more important than the WHAT when it comes to building effective teams.
Who is on the team matters less than how the team members interact, structure their work, and view their contributions.
A few years ago I was lecturing my middle daughter, Emily, about something that really didn’t matter in the big scheme of things. All of the sudden, she put up her hand, palm in my face, and told me in her most assertive (and slightly sassy) voice,
“Dad, you do you, and I’ll do me.”
Emily’s message was neither an act of defiance nor a plea to leave her the heck alone. It was a profound statement of boundaries. It was a statement of identity and self-determination. She’s a great kid. She follows the rules and respects her parents. And, she knows who she is. I’m proud of her for resisting these three boundary-violations and teaching me about where I should be spending my energy instead.
Balance is all the rage. Gotta have balance. Work-life balance, balance between muscle groups when weight-lifting, a balanced diet.
Balance is about having just the right amounts of all the things necessary for health and happiness.
Balance is a great goal, but it’s not the end goal. Why? Because change is the constant. Balance is about homeostasis, and homeostasis is fleeting. Much like the pendulum of a clock passes through dead center on every swing, homeostasis is a pass-through point on the journey between extremes.
Agility is the MetaSkill for a rapidly changing world.
Who you are is stable, enduring, consistent, lasting, set from an early age, highly influenced by nature.
How you are doing with who you are is variable, inconsistent, temporary, fleeting, and highly influenced by your choices.
Knowing the difference is one of the strongest indicators of maturity.
Confusing these two is the slippery slope to a life lacking clarity, purpose, responsibility, balance, and satisfaction.