In the new Covid-19 world everyone is going virtual. In my part of that world it’s about virtual training. I get multiple emails every day either promoting a new virtual training, giving me a free course to get up to speed, or offering to help promote my own virtual stuff. It’s hard not to make comparisons between what we are doing and what they are doing. Inevitably, I feel inadequate. Is everyone else ahead of us? Will we get on the virtual train before it leaves the station? What are we missing? I easily get overwhelmed when I let myself go there.
Back when I was a therapist, patients would often share with me their desire to fit in and their struggle with low self-esteem because what they were doing wasn’t enough compared to others. I would often encourage them with this,
You aren’t a human doing. You are a human being.
My intention was to affirm that we are unconditionally valuable because we exist, not because of our actions.
These days I could use a dose of my own therapy!
Yet in a heavily achievement-oriented society that measures worth by what we DO instead of who we are, it’s easy to feel inadequate.
Then along comes Covid-19.
Doing, as we know it, is over for now
- No more showing off your latest brand of shoes at school.
- No more competing for that spot on the track team.
- No more heading to the office for a successful day’s work.
- No more running all those errands to feel productive.
- No more closing that big sale in record time.
- No more go, go, go.
Younger people may have the hardest time with this since they lack perspective and they’ve grown up experiencing and expecting quick fixes to most problems. I wonder if younger countries, like America, might also struggle more with this. We (Americans) are accustomed to winning the war, defeating the enemy, innovating a solution in record time, blasting through the rubble unscathed like every Marvel movie. Although we’ve suffered plenty in our short lifetime, our perspective is relatively limited compared to many.
Being is the next frontier
Human Doings spend so much time taking action that they haven’t cultivated their skills of Being.
I am in no way suggesting that we should back off on our efforts to contain and cure the CoronaVirus. I am suggesting that this challenge may also be a golden opportunity to rediscover what it means to be a human being.
My wife, Julie said it best;
“We need to adapt, learn and re-imagine our approach to help our clients at a time when training is not what they need, but compassion is.”
How has this crisis challenged your DOING way of life? What are you discovering about BEING a human? Will you share your comments?
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