Conflict without Casualties

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No one has explained with as much precision asRegier how to eliminate drama and suffuse the workplace with more creativity, accountability and productivity than ever. A revolutionary resource!

Marshall Goldsmith,
international bestselling author or editor of thirty-five books, including What Got you Here Won't Get You There and Triggers

Conflict without Casualties is a major hit in cities all across Texas helping municipal governmental agencies achieve healthy and safe work environments by embracing the concept of Compassionate Accountability.

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About the Book

Life and work are a constant tug of war when people struggle against each other or with themselves to get what they want, causing relationships and entire systems to unravel. In Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Compassionate Accountability, clinical psychologist and transformative communication expert Dr. Nate Regier tells us it doesn’t have to be that way. The concepts and tools he shares can turn conflict into a partner for positive change.

Provocative, illuminating, and endlessly informative, Conflict without Casualties will transform both the way you see and feel about other people and the way you approach conflict and accountability. In it, Regier brings us the collective intelligence of Next Element, the firm he co-founded that serves advises, trains, and certifies high-value change agents internationally.This book embodies the lessons of Leading out of Drama,® Next Element’s suite of training and certification tools. In true field guide fashion, it becomes the central reference point for Next Element’s work across the world.

Conflict without Casualties holds the power to change the dynamic at work. Your personal relationships will never look the same. Regier invites us to replace the unrealistic, sometimes punishing, even crushing demands we exact on both our colleagues and loved ones with openness, resourcefulness, and persistence.

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Conflict without Casualties fills a gap by showing leaders at any level how to leverage positive conflict. Practical, insightful, challenging, relevant.

DAN PINK,
author of five provocative books, including New York Times bestsellers A Whole New Mind, Drive, and To Sell is Human

Conflict without Casualties is powerful, in a practical way. Dr. Regier provides a compelling model to demonstrate how the energy created by conflict can be utilized for positive change—for individuals, within relationships, for organizations and even for world crises. Thought provoking, yet easy to read and comprehend, I would highly recommend this book!

Paul White, Ph.D.,
co-author, The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace, Rising Above a Toxic Workplace and Sync or Swim–A fable about coming together in a crisis

This book is a wonderful and powerful resource. I can see how the Formula for Compassionate Conflict can be leveraged in innovation and teams for real breakthroughs—without the casualties!

Chris Donlon,
Senior Field Umpire and Grand Final Umpire, Australian Rules Football

The world needs Next Element’s brilliant model for transforming conflict into productive change. Nate’s book profoundly improved my mindset and gave methe tools to have powerful relationship-building conversations

Vicki Halsey, PhD,
Vice President, The Ken Blanchard Companies, and author of the bestselling Brilliance by Design

Nate Regier takes the old idea that creativity is the hidden purpose behind conflict andopposition in this world and applies it to many practical and important areas of human endeavor.His work with compassionate engagement can help sustain relationships of all kinds.

Michael Meade,
author of Fate and Destiny and Why the World Doesn’t End

Who could ever think of conflict as creative? Nate Regier, that’s who. Nate’s strategies are effective at work and at home—at every level. Don’t shy away from conflict; face it with creativity and compassion and watch things change for the better.

Ken Blanchard,
co-author of The New One Minute Manager® and Collaboration Begins with You

A must read, this book offers a simple, powerful model for transforming conflict, drama and negative energy into compassionate accountability and a stronger, more united team. Conflictcan help a team grow when utilized properly. This book shows you how.

Jon Gordon,
bestselling author of The Energy Bus and The Carpenter

Meet the Author

Dr. Nate Regier

Nate Regier, Ph.D., is the CEO and founding owner of Next Element Consulting, a global leadership firm dedicated to bringing compassion into the workplace. Dr. Regier is a former practicing psychologist and expert in social-emotional intelligence, interpersonal communication, and leadership. Recognized as a Top 100 keynote speaker, he is a Process Communication Model® Certifying Master Trainer. Nate is the author of three books—Beyond Drama: Transcending Energy Vampires; Conflict Without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability; and his newest book, Seeing People Through: Unleash Your Leadership Potential with The Process Communication Model. He hosts a podcast called “On Compassion with Dr. Nate,” writes a weekly blog, contributes to multiple industry publications and blogs, and is a regular guest on podcasts.

Q & A with Dr. Nate Regier,

CEO and co-founder of Next Element Consulting, LLC

Why did you write Conflict without Casualties?

First, as a reference guide for Leading Out of Drama,® our training and coaching system for Compassionate Accountability. Second, to solidify and share the collective intelligence Next Element has developed over the last decade.

Who should read the book? Why?

Anyone, whether in a leadership position or not, who has to wade through conflict to reach goals. Conflict is inevitable and if you’d like to learn to negotiate it better, with less drama, this book is for you.

It couldn’t have been easy writing this book with an already busy schedule. How did you do it? What was your routine?

It was very difficult. And I wrote through the chaos because there’s no such thing as the serene writing environment where inspiration flows and nobody distracts you. I usually get up early in the morning and try to have one solid hour of uninterrupted time when my mind is fresh before the day starts around our house. I have receipts from little coffee shops all over Central Kansas where I’d find a few hours to knock out a chapter. A lot of the book came from blogs I’ve written as well as training materials our team has developed.

Who cheered you on?

Everyone! I feel so blessed by the support. From the manager of Norms, our local coffee shop, to my team who allowed me to block entire work days away from the office to write to clients who knew of this project, I had a big cheering squad. Once we set a date of publication, that deadline was also a big motivating factor.

What was the highest moment during your work on the book?

Writing Chapter 5: Compassion and the Cycles of Human Civilization: Will We get it Right This Time? This is the first time I’d ever put in writing the story of how the Compassion Cycle was conceived. I believe it’s important to document moments of inspiration, creativity and synergy. It was almost as exhilarating to write the chapter as when the actual events occurred.

The lowest?

Editing and proofing. Not the most exciting work, and we did it under a very tight deadline. This was most stressful for me because I care deeply about the readability, grammar, spelling, design, graphics and every little thing that impacts the quality of the finished product and the perception readers will have.

Our publisher received a kind e-mail from the person who narrated the audiobook version, commenting, “…it sports such an accessible, easy-to-narrate writing style.” I was delighted to hear this. No matter how profound or sophisticated the concepts, they should be easy to understand and read.

What thinkers and writers have influenced your work?

Too many to mention them all. Some in particular are Michael Meade, Daniel Pink, Daniel Goleman, Nelson Mandella, Stephen Karpman and Taibi Kahler.

What role does the book play in Next Element’s Leading Out of Drama® (LOD®) curriculum?

It is the central reference point for all the concepts. I wrote this book in part to be the definitive reference guide for LOD, our treatise on Compassionate Accountability. Regardless of which piece of LOD curriculum a person is using, this book will offer additional insight, stories and examples to enrich the experience.

There are lots of curriculum platforms on the market today. What’s special about LOD®?

LOD gives hope to anyone who has struggled to walk though conflict with another person to get something important done. It brings forth several profound, new ways of thinking about conflict and how to use it as a creative force. Our concept of Compassionate Accountability and the way it comes to life through various formulas and applications represent a transcendent leap forward in the leadership communication field. Over 90 percent of our clients say LOD is far superior to any other model of communication and conflict they have experienced. “Intuitive, practical, effective.”

One of our trainers commented about our curriculum, saying,“It is so elegant, so intuitive and well-engineered it practically runs itself!”

So you’re suggesting this book and LOD® can change my life?

Yes it can. One of our LOD trainers in Melborne, Australia, recently said that with LOD, “There’s nowhere to hide.” LOD quickly exposes negative drama and just as quickly offers alternative behaviors to change the balance of energy in any relationship.

Will it change your life? That depends. Jamie Remsberg, my co-founding owner and a master trainer, likes to remind me that models don’t work, you work. As they say, you get out what you put in.

You’ve got lots of evidence to back that up. Share a story about the impact of your work on an individual or company.

I share a ton of stories in the book. One in particular was our work with a statewide youth service organization with more than 30 independent regions. We helped them implement a new strategic plan to create more efficiency and collaboration across the state. The key to success was getting the 30 regional managers to work collaboratively instead of competitively, which was a 180-degree cultural turnaround. The tools of LOD helped executive leadership successfully lead this transition even while negotiating regular and intense conflict with board members, constituency and their own staff.

People have called you a pioneer. Who are you? Pioneer? Counselor? Coach? Writer? Mad scientist?

I don’t know. I love to see patterns and solve problems. I love people and believe that everyone is worthwhile, capable and accountable. The challenge is to find ways to communicate with others so that these three qualities shine through. I’ve always resisted labels and boxes. I’m a psychologist, competition BBQer, tennis player, husband, dad, woodworker and ex-missionary kid. These have all been and continue to be formative influences in my work. I believe there’s really nothing new under the sun. Most of the ideas for which I get credit are simply reformulations or different perspectives on the work of those that came before. When I die, I’d like people to remember me as an enthusiastic catalyst of human potential.

What has most influenced you in life?

My childhood as a missionary kid gave me deep appreciation for diversity and the power of conflict to create or destroy. My small liberal arts college degree taught me to look in the most unlikely places for answers. My clinical psychology degree gave me a deep appreciation and love for the dynamics of human interaction and experience. Key mentors in my life have continued to mold my passion and expertise in the art and science of communication. Working the past 10 years with an incredible team of trainers, facilitators and coaches has challenged me every day to hone my craft. As one of our trainers so aptly stated, getting involved with Next Element won’t make your life any easier. It will make your life more rewarding. I’m definitely a product of that.

How has your work impacted your family dynamic? Work dynamic?

No relationship has gone untouched by my work. The work I do isn’t about tools, methodologies or strategies. It’s about a philosophy of life and a way of being with self and others. My work has enriched my marriage, relationships with my children, larger family, clients and the community, even the way I engage in social media.

What’s next for Next Element?

To make Conflict Without Casualties a best-selling book and keep growing our Leading Out of Drama training, coaching and certification system with the intention of changing the balance of energy in the world, one person and one interaction at a time. To continue to innovate our methods and develop new resources for our network of trainers and clients worldwide.

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