My Manifesto For Change. Conflict Isn’t The Problem.

Posted on April 26, 2017 by Nate Regier / 1 comments
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It’s not surprising that when I Google the word ‘conflict,’ the terms ‘resolution,’ ‘mediation,’ ‘management,’ and ‘reduction’ pop up. All of these words convey an important message about our association with conflict; that it needs to be managed, reduced, resolved and mediated.

The problem with conflict mediation, conflict management, and conflict reduction is that each one positions conflict as the culprit.

Whether intended or not, these labels and much of the methods used in the conflict and communication fields reinforce the misconception that if we can remove the conflict, things will be better.

When we mediate, manage, or reduce the conflict, we necessarily reduce the energy available for productive problem-solving. When we respect the tension and use that energy to create instead of destroy, the results can be transformative.

Read my entire manifesto at http://changethis.com/manifesto/show/152.04.ConflictWithoutCasualties. In it you will discover,

  • The Four Myths of conflict
  • My definitions of drama and compassion
  • The Compassion Cycle, a model for conflict without casualties
  • The unwritten rules of drama-based cultures
  • The 10 Rules of Engagement for Compassion-Based Cultures

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Drew Stark
Posted on February 23, 2018

Conflict is a frustrated attempt to evoke understanding and change. Like fire, it is the observable energy of a reaction. This energy can (and should) be harnessed and focused towards productive behavior. The lens of compassion, whether trained upon ourselves (because we are individually worthy of our own and others compassion) or others, can provide the clarity to identify and guide what that energy can produce.

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Nate Regier
Posted on February 28, 2018

Thanks for sharing this, Drew.

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