Last week our government shut down again, and the finger-pointing was at an all-time high. The problem isn’t that we have a gap. Differences and disagreements can be terrific grist for the mill.
The problem is how we are viewing and positioning ourselves relative to others. Drama is what happens when we struggle against each other to feel justified about our positions and unhealthy behaviors.
Asking “Who is responsible for the gap?” is the wrong question. We need a better way.
The questions we should be asking are:
What is my role in creating and perpetuating the gap?
Why am I invested in struggling against others?
What could I do to close the gap?
What could I do so others would feel safe enough to approach me?
Is there a third way that allows us to struggle together towards a common goal?
This is compassionate accountability.