Only 30% of people who get married continue to have happy, healthy marriages.
Over forty years of research on healthy relationships, pioneered by the work of John Gottman and Robert Levenson at the University of Washington, has pinpointed what qualities successful relationships have in common. Their research has found two types of couples. Gay or straight, rich or poor, with or without children, couples are either Masters or Disasters.
Masters are those who are happily together at least six years after getting married. Disasters are those whose marriage has broken up or who are chronically unhappy.
My review of the research revealed three secrets that happily married couples know and practice. These secrets all have do with the practice of compassion, or “struggling with” your partner.