An article I wrote for Chief Executive magazine, titled How To Successfully Lead When Dealing With a Personal Crisis, sparked a lot of activity on social media. The article profiled three of the six Kahler Personality Types most likely to be in leadership positions, how they operate, how they misfire when under distress, and how they can get through crisis.
The biggest question I got about this article was, “What about the other three personality types?” You asked for it, so here is my analysis of the other three types based on Taibi Kahler’s groundbreaking discovery, the Process Communication Model (PCM®).
In the Chief Executive article I gave advice for how these leaders can cope through personal crisis. This time, I’m including how those near to them can help as well. Even the best leaders need others to help them through tough times.
Harmonizers are people-loving caregivers who enjoy close relationships and nurturing others. Crises can wear them out because they tend to care for everyone except themselves. They sacrifice their own boundaries and needs to please others. Harmonizers make up 30% of the general population (75% of whom are women), and a smaller but growing number of top leaders.
Harmonizers in crisis need to know you love them unconditionally. Give encouragement to take special time for themselves and permission that it’s OK and not selfish to nurture themselves as much as they nurture others. Help by offering to pick up some of their caregiving responsibilities so they can have me-time.
Rebels are the fun-loving, creative innovators. They love a varied pace and the unexpected. Crises aren’t fun! Crises tax a Rebel’s spontaneity and pressure them to assume responsibilities that cramp their style. Rebels make up 20% of the general population.
Support Rebels in crisis by accepting them as they are. Don’t judge their nontraditional ways of coping. They may make inappropriate jokes, find humor in things when everyone else is trying to be serious, and come up with creative ways of getting through that nobody thought of. Don’t force them to be serious, and find ways to keep it lively even while getting through a tough time.
Imaginers are the least outwardly focused of all the Kahler Types. They prefer their own space and avoid unnecessary socializing if they can. Crises can be extremely taxing for Imaginers if they are required to make independent decisions or interact with a lot of people. They will struggle to analyze information, answer questions and make logical decisions.
An Imaginer in crisis will tend to shut down. Support them by giving them space, but check in on them regularly to make sure they are tending to basic needs like eating and sleeping. Imaginers in crisis crave support with decision-making to take necessary action. Help them by taking a more directive role than you might with other types.
What’s your strongest personality type? How do you deal with crisis? Learn all about the six personality types with this short PCM video. Call us to learn more about PCM training and certification programs.
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