The book is called Conflict Without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading With Compassionate Accountability.
Here are six reasons why buying my book for Christmas is a bad idea.
1. There’s nowhere to hide.
People who have read my book and gone through our Compassionate Accountability training say,
“There’s nowhere to hide. Your model quickly exposes all the ways I waste the energy of conflict struggling against myself and others.”
So don’t buy my book and avoid exposing your own drama. Of course, everyone else already knows it, but the longer you avoid knowing it, the happier you will be.
2. Compassionate Accountability is exhausting!
Drama is much easier and doesn’t require extra effort or discipline. You already know how to do it. The holidays are all about taking it easy, so don’t buy my book.
3. I’d have to challenge my belief system.
Compassion requires we accept that people are worthwhile, capable, and accountable. If this contradicts your world view, then don’t buy my book.
4. Nate might ask me about it.
If I find out you bought my book I might ask you if you liked it. What if you didn’t read it, didn’t like it, or didn’t understand what I wrote? Awkward! Better off not buying the book.
5. I love feeling justified.
6. I’d have to be responsible.
Seriously! Learning more effective ways to communicate with people means you can no longer pretend you don’t know any better. People might expect you to do something different. For heaven’s sake, don’t buy the book for yourself, get it for everyone else!