Five Strategies For More Spectacular Failures

MichaelJordanEverybody fails. The question isn’t if or when, but how. How spectacular are your failures?  Here are five strategies to increase the chance of your failures becoming something spectacular.

Don’t make it personal

Failures are about everything EXCEPT a person’s worth. It may feel embarrassing, painful, discouraging, or even justified, and it’s not about who you are as a person. If you or others make it personal, they are derailing the possibility of learning. (more…)

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Is Your Personality A Liability, Or An Asset?

Newsweek magazine published a language analysis of US presidents done by FactBase concluding that Donald Trump speaks at a mid-fourth grade level, the lowest of all presidents analyzed, more than one grade level below the next lowest, Harry Truman. The analysis assessed the first 30,000 words each president spoke in office, and ranked them on the Flesch-Kincaid grade level scale and more than two dozen other common tests analyzing English-language difficulty levels. FactBase compared these findings to Trump’s own claim that he is a genius.

Fake News Alert. Language reading level has very little relationship to traditional measures of intelligence (IQ).


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In My Humble Opinion

Is anyone else curious or perplexed by the use of IMHO – In My Humble Opinion?

If brevity or efficiency is your motivation for using an acronym, why not get rid of it altogether and just say what you have to say?

If making sure people know you are simply sharing an opinion, my guess is your readers, friends, and colleagues already know your typical perceptual filter. They don’t need to be reminded.

If you feel compelled to advertise that your opinion is humble, consider the irony.

Nevertheless, opinions are an valuable filter or lens through which some people experience the world.


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Kicking Leadership’s Gluteus Maximus

I’m proud to be on the launch team for Bill Treasurer’s new book, A Leadership Kick In The Ass. Here’s an overview of the book, written by Bill.

Leading other people, for a host of reasons that we’ll explore, is really, really hard. Indeed, the sheer glut of leadership books may be the best evidence of how hard leadership truly is. If it were easy, budding leaders wouldn’t be so thirsty for leadership advice. Rather than try to glamorize the topic, I intend to strip it down so you can have a more grounded, authentic, and reality-based view of what it takes to lead. Unlike other leadership books you may have read, my new book, A Leadership Kick in the Ass, proposes that:

  • leadership is easier to get wrong than to get right;
  • leaders are often their own worst enemies and often get in their own way;
  • the most enduring and transformative leadership lessons come from humiliating leadership
  • experiences well-navigated;
  • not everyone is cut out to lead (but everyone can grow in their leadership influence);
  • to be most effective, leaders need both confidence and humility;
  • deficiencies in either cause poor or damaging leadership.

A good ass-kick can provoke a great comeback. Sprinkled throughout the book are stories about people who succeeded, not in spite of their kicks, but because of them. Heavyweight boxer Mike Tyson famously once said, “Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.”

By definition, a swift kick in the ass is painful. Essential as they are to the leadership maturation process, the learning starts after you pick yourself up off the mat. A leadership kick in the tuckus can be the moment where everything changes for you as a leader. But these moments can also be the starting point where you assess your strengths, clarify your values, and develop an authentic and true leadership voice and style.

Above all, benefiting from A Leadership Kick in the Ass requires choosing adaptability over obstinacy. It means assuming responsibility for your own actions and the consequences they bring. It involves having the courage to soberly acknowledge the leader you are today while you diligently work to be a better leader tomorrow.

The only way to bring out the best in those you’re leading is to lead with the best of yourself.


Since 1991 Bill has conducted over 500 corporate workshops designed to strengthen people’s leadership skills, improve team performance, accelerate innovation, and help executives behave more courageously. Among his clients are Accenture, Saks Fifth Avenue, UBS Bank, SPANX, Walsh Construction, Hugo Boss, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the U.S. Forest Service, the National Science Foundation, and the U.S. Veteran’s Administration. Bill’s insights about courage and risk-taking have been featured in over 100 newspapers and magazines, including the Washington Post, NY Daily News, Chicago Tribune, Atlanta Journal Constitution, Boston Herald, Woman’s Day, Redbook, Fitness, and The Harvard Management Update. His latest book, A Leadership Kick in the Ass, will be released on January 16, 2017. You can find out more about Bill at www.billtreasurer.com and http://giantleapconsulting.com.

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Three Words That Will Change Your Life

if you never use them again!

Are you still looking for a simple, yet powerful way to make a positive change this coming year? How about taking a look at the words you use? Some words are more powerful than others. They mean more than just their definition. They convey deeper intentions that can have a profound impact on communication. Here are three simple words that most of us use many times a day that can lead to misunderstanding, resentment, morale problems, and other unintended consequences. For each of these words there is a better alternative that will improve your communication and build trust in relationships. 

What are these words? (more…)

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The Power Of Great Questions: Interview With Marshall Goldsmith

MarshallGoldsmithPhotoBLOGI got the opportunity to interview Marshall Goldsmith, world renowned business educator and coach, on the power of questions. Marshall shares his wisdom around these topics:

  • What’s the difference between active and passive questions?
  • What are the Six Engaging Questions to start every day?
  • What are the top three questions we should ask ourselves when facing leadership challenges?
  • What are the most important things to focus on each day?
In 20 minutes, Marshall gives tremendous value to listeners, offers several free resources and an opportunity to be part of his “Six Questions Study.”

Click here to listen to the full interviewPodBeanButton

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Six Personality-Based Reasons Why Donald Trump Can’t Change

This article was originally posted in August of 2015 and has been the most-viewed article in the history of my blog. Since we are in election season now, I thought I’d freshen it up, add some new resources, and repost for those who are interested in better understanding the enigma that is Donald Trump.

The Donald is a wildly successful real-estate mogul and entrepreneur. He has an uncanny ability to capture the public’s interest. In many ways I admire his ability to continually find new ways to expand his empire. Despite his credentials as a businessman, he is unfit to be president, and the reasons for this are unlikely to change. (more…)

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Your Voting Options: Abandon Your Beliefs Or Abandon Your Tribe

I am fascinated by the energy being spent by Democrats and Republicans alike to discredit the other party’s candidate. If I had a dollar for every infographic and speech explaining why NOT to vote for Hillary or Donald, I’d be rich! This is a reflection of the intensely adversarial climate in which we are living. Polarization trumps collaboration, hateful messages trump meaningful conversations. Emotional volatility trumps rational thought. Fear trumps everything.

I feel a lot of empathy for anyone heading to the polls this November. Beneath the surface of all the acrimony is something nobody wants to talk about. (more…)

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What Can Basketball Teach Us About Drama?

Dr. Stephen Karpman loves sports. He is also an internationally acclaimed psychiatrist, author, therapist, and former athlete himself. As early as 1965, Karpman was doodling circles and symbols trying to figure out ways that a quarterback could outsmart the defensive halfback in football, or how offense beats defense in basketball. (more…)

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Conflict Without Casualties Now Available for Pre-Order

CWC + Discussion GuideIt’s here! We are excited to release Conflict Without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability, now available for pre-order through our website.

Act now to take advantage of special deals on the book and discussion guide, now through June 1.


PodBeanButtonAlso just released, my podcast interview about the book.


Visit the book page to:

  • Learn about pre-order specials
  • Read early praise from NYT best-selling authors
  • Get a sneak peak at the first few chapters, and the discussion guide
  • Q&A with the author, Nate Regier

We appreciate your support. Will you help us share the word?

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