Are you tired of helping? Are you weary of carrying everyone’s burdens, being the go-to person in the office, and shouldering so much. Are you suffering from compassion fatigue?
The reason for your fatigue may lie in a misunderstanding of compassion.
- If you are trying to help someone who doesn’t need or want your help, you aren’t practicing compassion.
- If you are helping others in a way that creates dependence, you aren’t practicing compassion.
- If you insert yourself to help and then get rejected or wonder why they aren’t grateful, you aren’t practicing compassion.
- If you are putting out fires instead of addressing underling causes, you aren’t practicing compassion.
These types of helping will lead to rejection, fatigue, or frustration. It’s not the good kind of tired, like when you know you’ve made a positive and lasting difference in someone’s life.
Compassion comes from the Latin root meaning, “To suffer with.” If you are struggling instead of or in place of another person, you aren’t practicing compassion.
- Real compassion builds confidence and competence, not dependence.
- Real compassion lifts people up without putting someone’s dignity at risk.
- Real compassion holds people accountable, doesn’t cover for them.
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