Have you ever heard these phrases at work?
- I had no choice.
- You left me no option.
- Have you had a chance to review the email I sent?
- You made me angry.
- I have to move our appointment.
- If it’s not too much trouble.
- What do we want to do next?
Have you ever heard these phrases at work?
Never underestimate the power of inhibitions. How many times in your life have you been told “Don’t,” “You shouldn’t,” or “You can’t?” Did it start early in your life with a parent, caregiver, teacher, or coach? Do you remember how you felt? Did you internalize these messages? How much have those limitations inhibited you throughout your life?
I’m genuinely sorry this happened to you. It’s unfortunate that people who cared about you and wanted to protect you said these things. This is tragic.
Because you were meant to thrive. And fly. And make a ruckus.
It’s finally here! My new podcast, OnCompassion with Dr. Nate is going live this month and I couldn’t be more thrilled.
Here’s what I said in the video:
Over the past year at Next Element we’ve really gained a lot of clarity around our purpose, which is to bring more compassion to every workplace around the world.
Our team at Next Element aren’t the only ones who care about compassion at work. When you look around there are so many incredible companies and leaders who are embracing real compassion not just because it’s the right thing to do, but also because it’s a lever for business success.
With this podcast I want to magnify the voices and wisdom of these leaders and give hope to anyone who is trying to combat the division and negativity so prevalent in our world today.
I spoke with Jody Horner, former CEO of Cargill Meat Solutions about the power of vulnerability in leadership.
Doug Conant shared how he turned around a failing Campbell’s Soup company by being tough-minded with standards, but tenderhearted with people.
Millie Ward shared the powerful compassion principles behind the success of her marketing firm, Stone Ward, that was recognized as one of Inc’ Magazine’s best places to work.
These are just a few of the guests I’ve already interviewed, each with a unique and inspiring message. My goal is to post one new episode per month.
Coming up I’ll be talking with Mark Miller, Vice President of high performance leadership for Chick-Fil-A and Stephen Trzeciak, author of Compassionomics, a book outlining the scientific evidence that caring really does make a difference.
With each episode my intention is to provide inspiring insights and practical tips for bringing more compassion to your life and work. I hope you enjoy them as much as I’ve enjoyed the conversations with my exceptional guests.
You can help me amplify the impact of OnCompassion by subscribing and sharing these podcasts with your tribe. Follow me on LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram, and stay tuned to our Next Element Facebook page for notifications of new episodes.
If you know a leader who might be a good fit for OnCompassion, I’d love to know about it.
The world needs more compassion. My guests are doing something about it.
A colleague brought my attention to a recent Dear Abby post from September 22, 2019, titled “Veteran Appreciates Action More than Words.”
This veteran had a negative reaction when someone says, “Thank you for your service.” His struggle was that given all he had experienced and suffered, that phrase rang hollow.
I admire self-aware, centered people who just seem to have it all figured out. And, sometimes they drive me crazy when they don’t DO anything about it. They act like being mindful is enough, all by itself.
Mindfulness is a powerful practice to gain awareness, accept and manage emotions, and get centered. It helps you turn and face internal experiences with openness and curiosity instead of judgment.
Call center managers from one of the nation’s largest car rental companies are using The Compassion Mindset to engage differently at work. In this video, reveal two surprisingly simple, but remarkably effective strategies they are are using to help their employees succeed.
I get more and more agitated every time I hear about a new philanthropy giving millions of dollars to a needy cause. I’m tired of another heroic act of altruism by Bill Gates. I’m done with servant leadership.
Don’t get me wrong. I admire the heck out of Bill Gates, the Dali Lama, and Mother Teresa. And I try to focus every day on serving others. My problem is that these beacons of compassion have set the bar too high and created an unrealistic view of what compassion is. This is especially true in today’s complex workplace.
Leaders who practice self-less compassion are headed for burnout.
Compassion comes from the Latin root meaning “to suffer with.”
Compassion is a two-way street that sees self and others as valuable, capable, and responsible. If you compromise any one of these three, drama might be just around the corner.
We need more role models that practice the full definition of compassion. Do you know any? Will you share in the comments?
Arthur Brooks, economist and author of Love Your Enemies estimates that seven percent of the population profits from contempt. Contempt is how we feel when we view others as invaluable, incapable, and irresponsible. This is exactly the opposite of compassion.
Contempt-mongers make their living by using conflict as a weapon. They have honed the art of stoking division, emphasizing differences, inviting fear, and normalizing the degradation of anyone who gets in their way.
Conflict was never approved for use as a weapon.
Conflict is a natural consequence of diversity. Diversity is a natural and wonderful part of this world we live in. The purpose of conflict is to create, not destroy.
Conflict has been approved as a viable energy source for creating something amazing.
Compassion is the mechanism for harnessing the positive potential in conflict.
93% of the world prefers compassion.
Who is your role model in the 93%? Will you give them a shout out on this post?
I recently accompanied my mother to a doctor’s appointment. We spent an hour in the waiting room and witnessed something that is all too common in patient care and impacts everything from satisfaction to the reputation of the practice itself.
I desperately wanted to rescue the billing representative during her interaction with a patient. If I could have slipped her a script using the ORPO template we teach in our Compassion Mindset course, it would have said,
Mis-communicable diseases are illnesses passed from person to person through miscommunication. That’s because miscommunication infects people with negativity; inferiority, guilt, shame, and fear. Forget the basic cases of not understanding each other. I’m talking about getting hooked, and the next thing you know, you’re under the weather.