I’ve shared before about my struggle with attention. I am able to focus so well (on my own thoughts and activities) that I miss what’s going on around me. Sometimes that happens in the middle of a conversation. I guess you could say I have a one-track mind. It often takes a jolt from the outside to get my attention.
Hearts are similar. Are you the kind of person whose heart flows outward to everyone else? Are you good at offering support, affirmation and validation to others. Would your friends and colleagues say you are a great listener and they feel safe around you? That’s terrific! You are a gift.
Does your heart flow the other way? How comfortable are you sharing your own feelings? Do you ask for help from others and lean on them for support? Do you show your vulnerability and trust others to validate you?
Just like minds, hearts beat strongest when they are able to give, and receive love.
Do you have a one-track heart? What’s getting in the way of you allowing the flow of love in both directions?
You aren’t alone. Most leaders we work with are much more comfortable giving than receiving. Receiving from another’s heart means accepting that you are human, vulnerable, valuable and interdependent. It means giving up the need to be seen in a certain way, and embracing the unknown risks of opening up.
Compassion is about struggling with each other in a spirit of dignity.
How can anyone struggle with you if they don’t know what you are struggling with.
This season, I want to encourage you to relish the joy of giving, because so many people need what you have to offer. And, I want to give you permission to embrace the gift of asking for help and receiving love from others. You are worth it.