Comments on: Authenticity and Process Communication http://next-element.com/2009/12/authenticity-and-process-communication/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 04:05:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Nicole Heimann http://next-element.com/2009/12/authenticity-and-process-communication/comment-page-1/#comment-157 Nicole Heimann Fri, 09 Apr 2010 19:39:43 +0000 http://next-element.com/?p=1483#comment-157 Hi Nate! An interesting and inspiring article. I/we at 5C have been pondering about this a lot lately as Rainer and me will give a presentation on authenticity next week at a conference. We view things as you describe them brilliantly in your white paper. Can we use the example of the counterfeit glasses? I like it. Being authentic is to be all of who you are. We know that people tend to only use the first 2 or 3 floors of their condominium. Often, the last ones, which are not so easily are accessible are the ones we recognize in others as "difficult persons". As we don't want to be like "a difficult person", we unconsiously "devalue" this personality type into ourselves and do not live it or avoid going there. In our experience, people who have been on a PCM seminar, accept these parts into themselves again (and others). By accepting and starting to live these parts again, they experience their being as more authentic. And it doesn't even have to be in the upper part of the personality. I remember feedback from a base rebel person... who said: "since the PCM seminar, I accept myself again and I stand to it. My team members now know that I'm a rebel and I live my being. I feel much happier, I am more cheerful, enjoy my work much more and am more productive." Distress definitely masks our true authentic being. I believe ;-) acceptance and permission can be another important door opener to more authenticity. Spring greetings from Switzerland! Nicole Hi Nate!

An interesting and inspiring article. I/we at 5C have been pondering about this a lot lately as Rainer and me will give a presentation on authenticity next week at a conference. We view things as you describe them brilliantly in your white paper. Can we use the example of the counterfeit glasses? I like it.

Being authentic is to be all of who you are.
We know that people tend to only use the first 2 or 3 floors of their condominium.
Often, the last ones, which are not so easily are accessible are the ones we recognize in others as “difficult persons”. As we don’t want to be like “a difficult person”, we unconsiously “devalue” this personality type into ourselves and do not live it or avoid going there.
In our experience, people who have been on a PCM seminar, accept these parts into themselves again (and others).
By accepting and starting to live these parts again, they experience their being as more authentic.
And it doesn’t even have to be in the upper part of the personality.
I remember feedback from a base rebel person… who said: “since the PCM seminar, I accept myself again and I stand to it. My team members now know that I’m a rebel and I live my being. I feel much happier, I am more cheerful, enjoy my work much more and am more productive.”

Distress definitely masks our true authentic being.
I believe ;-) acceptance and permission can be another important door opener to more authenticity.

Spring greetings from Switzerland!
Nicole

]]> By: Nate Regier http://next-element.com/2009/12/authenticity-and-process-communication/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Nate Regier Tue, 05 Jan 2010 17:00:40 +0000 http://next-element.com/?p=1483#comment-113 My new favorite quote from Virginia Satir is "The meaning of your communication is the response you get. If you get the wrong response, change the way you communicate". My new favorite quote from Virginia Satir is “The meaning of your communication is the response you get. If you get the wrong response, change the way you communicate”.

]]> By: Deb Bergen http://next-element.com/2009/12/authenticity-and-process-communication/comment-page-1/#comment-112 Deb Bergen Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:31:02 +0000 http://next-element.com/?p=1483#comment-112 I suppose it's workaholic/logic talk to say that the various channels have always just seemed to be (like) speaking different languages. English is my mother tongue, and I can't express myself as well in other languages, but that is just a learning issue, not a comment on the validity of what I am hearing or trying to communicate (to stretch the metaphor - there could be invalidity if my lack of facility in the 2nd language leads to those wonderful errors of language/cultural novices). Communication is communication, dunh. If I'm not speaking the language my listener will understand, well.... certain sterotypes of Americans speaking English loudly and slowly in other countries come to mind. Fascinating, as always, to see how the different channels experience this issue and describe it. I can see how my Reactor phase builds on the logical assessment to stress the importance of relating. I suppose it’s workaholic/logic talk to say that the various channels have always just seemed to be (like) speaking different languages. English is my mother tongue, and I can’t express myself as well in other languages, but that is just a learning issue, not a comment on the validity of what I am hearing or trying to communicate (to stretch the metaphor – there could be invalidity if my lack of facility in the 2nd language leads to those wonderful errors of language/cultural novices). Communication is communication, dunh. If I’m not speaking the language my listener will understand, well…. certain sterotypes of Americans speaking English loudly and slowly in other countries come to mind.
Fascinating, as always, to see how the different channels experience this issue and describe it. I can see how my Reactor phase builds on the logical assessment to stress the importance of relating.

]]> By: Barrick Wilson http://next-element.com/2009/12/authenticity-and-process-communication/comment-page-1/#comment-111 Barrick Wilson Mon, 04 Jan 2010 21:41:11 +0000 http://next-element.com/?p=1483#comment-111 Leadership skills are learned. Management skills are learned. These separate sets of skills are needed to reach different desired outcomes: managing processess to run smoothly vs. leading change to improve the process. Acquiring any skill requires a period of uncomfortableness. Acquiring leaderhsip communication skills is no different. The real "communications modification challenge" comes with caring for a spouse with Alzheimer's Disease. Eliminating comments about shared memories has been the hardest to master. Leadership skills are learned. Management skills are learned. These separate sets of skills are needed to reach different desired outcomes: managing processess to run smoothly vs. leading change to improve the process. Acquiring any skill requires a period of uncomfortableness. Acquiring leaderhsip communication skills is no different.

The real “communications modification challenge” comes with caring for a spouse with Alzheimer’s Disease. Eliminating comments about shared memories has been the hardest to master.

]]> By: Cathy Anderson http://next-element.com/2009/12/authenticity-and-process-communication/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Cathy Anderson Mon, 04 Jan 2010 20:29:49 +0000 http://next-element.com/?p=1483#comment-110 Jeff, I really like what you say what you say about habits (they take very little energy and cause virtually no discomfort). I love my habits and I think it would be great if I could effectively meet every situation with them. But, huh, I've noticed they don't always produce the desired outcome. So I like PCM because it gives me a tool to work in the uncomfortable zone outside of habit. Since both PCM and my habits are just "tools," the choice of tool doesn't affect my personal feeling of authenticity. Jeff, I really like what you say what you say about habits (they take very little energy and cause virtually no discomfort). I love my habits and I think it would be great if I could effectively meet every situation with them. But, huh, I’ve noticed they don’t always produce the desired outcome. So I like PCM because it gives me a tool to work in the uncomfortable zone outside of habit. Since both PCM and my habits are just “tools,” the choice of tool doesn’t affect my personal feeling of authenticity.

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